What's in a name? According to recent research, the more unique the moniker you bestow on your little ones, the more narcissistic you may be. Even Brangelina, for all their charity work, are rather self-involved, according to this study. And for an even stranger twist, this week we learn Shiloh would rather go by "John." Wrong gender, sure, but maybe she's onto something (or precociously read the study and didn't want her parents to be seen in such a disparaging light).
At five-months pregnant, my husband and I have also given a lot of thought to what we would name our first son. After I ix-nayed his suggestions of Panthro and Maximus, we settled on a simple family name: Henry.
Though I thought his suggestions were A) funny, and B) never gonna happen, had we actually decided to give our son one of those unusual names, we would have been like the millions of moms a recent study pointed fingers at, all because of what their children answer to.
The study, published in the Journal of Social Psychological and Personality Science, found that in recent years, parents have been less likely to give their children popular names. For instance, in the late 1800s and early 1900s, about 5 percent of babies were named the most common names then (John and Mary), reported LiveScience. More recently, that dropped to a scant 1 percent being named Aiden or Emma, this decade's most popular names.
The researchers even adjusted for immigration rates, which could arguably lead to fewer Jacks and more Juans. As Jean Twenge, PhD, one of the researchers concluded, "The most compelling explanation left is this idea that parents are much more focused on their children standing out. There's been this cultural shift toward focusing on the individual, toward standing out and being unique as opposed to fitting in with the group and following the rules."
Then she went in for the kill: "I think it is an indication of our culture becoming more narcissistic," Twenge says.
It's hardly surprising she would think that, considering she's written two books on the wave of narcissism slowly sweeping America. But we wondered what all the mothers of Apples and Bronxes and Zumas would have to say.
"My husband and I did not take the naming process lightly," says Chevonne Zavitz, 31, of British Columbia about her son, Ewan. "I have always thought -- incorrectly or not -- that a parent who chooses to name their child a top 100 name really didn't give the whole naming process a lot of thought."

Her argument: Kids naturally act a bit like lemmings -- choosing similar clothing and habits just to fit in -- so why would she want to encourage the groupthink by giving her kid a name so many in the same age range would also have?
Rebecca Engler*, 30, mother to twins Dahlia and Athena, takes a more "to each her own" stance: "I think one could argue it's narcissistic to have children in the first place, so it seems like splitting hairs to decide parents are narcissists based on their name choice -- not to mention ridiculous," she says. "But I think just as every parent is entitled to name their child what they wish, every researcher is entitled to her own opinion."
Spoken more like the mother of future diplomats than debutantes.
But Meredith Bates, 31, of Charlotte, N.C., who named her 5-week-old son Charleston, fired back:
"Parents who name their kids unique names think that their kids are special? Every child is special, why would I not think my child is?"
And, as for the study's assertions that parents who choose out-there names aren't interested in their kid fitting in:
"She's right about that," she says. "I'd like to teach my child to be his own unique self and not just try and 'fit in.' I don't think that's being narcissistic -- I think that's called being a good parent."
What do you think: Does naming your child Apple or Zuma set them apart from the crowd -- or mean you live to hog the limelight?
*Names have been changed to protect the innocent and their not-so-narcissistic mothers, who chose to remain anonymous.
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Friday 05 March
By topdwn96
I've never really had a problem with unusual names, I just wish people didn't equate 'unusual' with 'misspelled'. I have a perfectly easy first name, four letters. It's pronounced exactly like it looks. But haven't I had to correct people my whole life about my name!? My policy is to correct a person 3 times. If after 3 times they're still mispronouncing or misspelling my name, it's because they don't care what my name is.
I occasionally look at a list of what young, or not, new mothers are naming their children and I find myself just shaking my head. Creative spelling is not your friend, ladies ... I'm old, I know these things.
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Tuesday 09 March
By annonymous
I actually saw TWO little girls in a little league named Abcde!!! Not one people, but two! That is just plain crazy and crule! They pronounced it Absidee. Wow.... stupid people... I feel sorry for those girls.
Tuesday 09 March
By Leila
Sorry but I feel unusual names are a very good thing. Think about it. Cultures have names that mean something in their language. All of our "traditional" names mean zip to us. They all have ancient roots. Coming up with unusual names that actually mean something to us is narcissistic? Give me a break.
Friday 05 March
By Max
Moms narcissists? Why do women go crazy to have children?
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Tuesday 09 March
By m
what sane person would volunteer for an 18 years and 9 months/to life sentence? otherwise we would run out of ppl.
Tuesday 09 March
By tamanosou
Why do men? I've had to end several relationships over that or pushing the marraige question way too early. I'm now convinced you guys want nothing out of a relationship than babies. I suppose it is more difficult for men to ensure reproductive success, but they have a much higher potential maximum. I don't understand why men get so silly and desperately pursue marraige and children.
Saturday 06 March
By Corrinne
I completely disagree! As I get older I want kids less and less so I don't really have to worry. But, for whatever reason I don't like popular/common names as much. Maybe it is because I have a somewhat uncommon name (Corrinne). My mom was NOT narcissitic in the least. She was the most down to earth person I've ever met. My parents got my name from a popular show they liked way back when.
I think this theory is just plain silly... I don't think wanting to be unique/liking unique names=narcissistic. As long as you truly like the name you choose that is what should matter...
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Monday 08 March
By allyson
. . . i just had to interject here, because Corrinne happens to be one of my favorite names. it's not really unusual, just a little dated. it's one of those beautiful (in my opinion) classic names that faded away.
personally, i love the oldie but goodies, and even the more popular names. but honestly, every time one of my friends has a baby and names it something like zantravious or . . . i cringe, wondering if (s)he'll ever get a decent job with a name like that on the application. especially the names with the apostrophes.
i just think we have to think about the future. are the kids gonna appreciate us naming them after medications, harry potter characters, or obscure planets in other solar systems?? probably not.
Monday 08 March
By sparkles pederson
As a mother who happens to spend plenty of time on the playground, I have to correct you. Currently there is no such thing as a "popular/common" name. ALL the "popular" names right now are trying hard to be un-common. You would be surprised at all the "Keely, Keily, Kiran, Kira, Kelsee, blah, blah, blahs there are out there. It would be shocking to hear of a Lisa or Kathy or Debbie. All these moms think they are being so cool and hip by picking what they think are "unusual" names. Once the kid gets to kindergarten they realize they have chose the modern equivalent of Jennifer.
Get over yourselves people. If you like funky names so much, then change your own. Let your poor child have a regular name that they can make their own instead of giving them one they have to apologize for.
Tuesday 09 March
By Bob B
Sorry Corrinne, your name is not that far out there. Lemonjello's name is way out there and I liked her post. If your name is really out there, you will probably feel like she does, basically saying "mom, dad, WTF were you thinking?"
My case? Never less than three or four of us Bob's in a group of 30 or more,so I am coming from another perspective. I like my name, but apparently so did millions of other parents in the 50's and 60's.
Tuesday 09 March
By CMG
I don't think Corrine is a very unusual name...Afterall, my parents gave that name to me, too. ;-) LOL
As for the Bronx's, Maddoxes, Sparrows, and Brooklyns of the world (BTW, what is it with the obsession with NYC Burroughs when naming your kids??), those are unusual names. It seems the names that are most popular nowadays are those that women (and men) choose in an effort to be "different," which actually makes it so their child is going to have to be referred to as Neveah (Insert first letter of last name here) in school to differentiate her from the other 3 Neveahs in the class, as everyone seems to have the same idea. I will admit that I went with the old-fashioned name trend when naming my newborn daughter a few months ago - Lillian. I have come across a few women who have named their daughters Lillian, as well. Except they choose to spell it, Lilyan, Lillyin, Lylian...etc.etc...I guess this is their way of making their child's name unique. To them I say, good luck finding a magnet or coffee mug with that name on it at Disneyland...
Friday 09 April
By Grace
This could have been written by my oldest daughter whose name is Corinne (different spelling) But we did get the name from a show her father and I loved at the time. I also thought the name was elegant, strong, unusual without being weird.
Her sister is Alexandria, no show to base it on this time but the same reasons, elegant, strong and not too common.
I have an overly common name for my age group and I hated it from the time I was in Kindergarten, everyone it seemed had the same name, we were all the same. As an adult I had my name legally changed.
I wanted my daughters names to be known without being common, I didn't want them to go through what I went through. And I liked the meanings of their names especially when coupled with their middle names.
Unique names can be an asset but think long and hard about what that name is conveying and how it will be perceived by others. And how it reflects on you as a parent as some names just seem cruel and other parents will pity your child and wonder about your stability. And be careful about spellings, what looks cool and awesome could mean years of heartache for your child.
Saturday 06 March
By Bonnie
Henry? lolo Narcissists totally.
There are no new names, (unless they are made up!). My pet peeve is misspelled names. Just today I saw "Elexus." What is funny is the parents think this is unique...no, you just misspelled the name Alexis.
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Monday 08 March
By john
who's to say how a name is spelled? Its is all phonetics anyway. Its not being unique I would have to agree with that, but the parents that do that are more than likely trying to have the kid have a name that is common w/o it being exactly that. There are millions of variations on names, so "misspelling" them is close to impossible. After all Jesus' name was never even Jesus it was more closer to Joshua and Santa Clause was Agios Nikolaos (greek Saint Nikolaos). I'm not saying you are wrong but even a mirror has two sides.
Tuesday 09 March
By gaga
maybe they think their kid is a japanese auto.
Tuesday 09 March
By Britni
My name is spelt diffrent... not wrong! My mother choose a unigue spelling
btw my name is Britni wich is the "mis-spelt" version of Brittany/Briteny. Did you bother to see if that little girl's name is pronounced diffrently (mine is)
Saturday 06 March
By Bree
My mother named me Sabrina....when i was born there were only a handful of people named that. Now it is one of the more popular girls names. So naturally when i got pregnant my husband and I bought the 10000 plus baby name book and still ended up naming our daughter after a character in a J R R Tolkein book. Not many people pronounce her name correctly, but she can (at 18 months old) and those who do recognize it thinks its awesome. Even some who ask how its pronounced say that it is unusual and pretty. And yes i do think that my child is special....but i also think that of any child. Children are wonderous beings and they shouldnt be forgotten as such. After all THEY ARE THE FUTURE!!!!!!
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Saturday 06 March
By Kevin
So what did you name her, Galadriel, Eowyn, Arwen, or Rosie Cotton?
Monday 08 March
By Suzy
Sabrina, my husband and I are big J.R.R. Tolkien fans, especially with The Hobbit and of course, LOTR. We are so curious, to know which character you chose for your daughter's name. The two that come to mind are: Arwen, who was played by Liv Tyler, and Gabrielle, who was played by Cate Blanchette. Both were cast so well... Anyway, I have a hunch her name is Arwen.. Am I correct? lol
Tuesday 09 March
By velveteent
You commented that your name Sabrina ("Now it is one of the more popular girls names.)"
I have to say that Sabrina is NOT the more popular girls name, it is an old fashion name that has not really made a come back. It is however, a family name that is rarely used in todays choice for babies names.... Im not sure where you got your information but the more popular girls names are more like Kayla, Brooklyn, Kayla, Cheyanne, Tiffany, ....................................................